As the economic hardship bites harder, a new trend in some communities is for men to ask for “marriage lists” from several women.
The lists detail the financial costs involved in getting married, including dowries and gifts. The requirements can vary widely based on culture and personal circumstances.
According to a report by Vanguard, men request the lists to figure out which marriage would be the most affordable for them.
While marriage has traditionally been about love and partnership, it is also seen as a financial agreement between families in many cultures.
Critics argue that the new trend reduces women to their financial worth and creates unhealthy competition among them.
Part of the report read: “On a practical level, the comparison of marriage costs can be influenced by economic realities.
“In times of financial uncertainty, individuals may feel compelled to prioritize financial security over emotional connection. This trend can also reflect broader societal changes, where economic factors increasingly dictate personal choices.
“However, it’s essential to recognize that while financial considerations are valid, they should not overshadow the fundamental aspects of partnership—mutual respect, love, and shared goals.
“While the practice of men requesting marriage lists from various women may appear to be a logical approach to navigating the complexities of modern relationships, it brings to light significant ethical, cultural, and emotional concerns.
“Marriage, at its core, is a partnership that thrives on connection and commitment, transcending financial considerations.
“As society continues to evolve, it’s crucial to strike a balance between practical realities and the deeper values that define successful and fulfilling relationships.
“Ultimately, a marriage built on love and mutual respect will likely yield a more rewarding and lasting partnership than one anchored solely in economic calculations.”
