Emir of Kano, Muhammad Sanusi II, has sparked widespread debate on the X platform following his advice to his daughters to stand up against domestic violence, suggesting that they should respond to any slap from their husbands with one of their own.
Sanusi made this statement during the National Dialogue Conference on Gender-Based Violence (GBV) prevention from an Islamic perspective. Highlighting the prevalence of domestic violence, he cited statistics revealing that 45% of cases in nine Shari’a Courts in Kano over the past five years were related to domestic violence.
While his comments were intended to challenge the acceptance of domestic abuse, they have drawn mixed reactions from Nigerians. Critics and supporters alike have taken to social media to share their views.
Criticisms of Sanusi’s Advice
Many Nigerians have expressed disagreement with the former Emir’s stance, arguing that retaliation could escalate domestic disputes. Former lawmaker Shehu Sani criticized the advice, asserting that it could lead to further complications in relationships. He linked the issue to broader societal challenges, stating:
“It’s sad that you now see thousands of divorcees from the North in Abuja, refusing to be patient with their husbands. They live a life of glorified prostitution, moving from one Honorable to another, enduring worse treatment than they ever did in their marriages.”
Other users echoed concerns about promoting retaliation:
- @afrotrax wrote: “I believe no one should have to endure violence in any form. While I understand the intent behind Emir Sanusi’s statement, retaliation can escalate situations and cause more harm. Empowerment and legal protection, not physical retaliation, are the solutions to ending domestic violence.”
- @siazubuike added: “Dear daughters, don’t listen to Emir Sanusi. If your husband slaps you, report him to the authorities. Never slap back, as it might endanger you further or make you liable if the situation worsens.”
Support for Sanusi’s Message
Despite the criticism, some commenters supported Sanusi’s bold stance, viewing it as a call for accountability:
- @jayneraphael_ wrote: “Men criticizing this advice would likely send their wives packing if slapped back. Yet they don’t think twice before hitting their wives. Emir Sanusi is instilling a sense of accountability in husbands.”
- @kpapkando noted: “Slap-for-slap might escalate things, but the Emir’s point about standing up for oneself and fostering accountability is crucial.”
The Broader Debate on Domestic Violence
The conversation has also reignited discussions about the societal and religious frameworks surrounding marriage and domestic violence in Nigeria. Some commentators urged for dialogue and legal recourse over physical retaliation:
- @anasuachara argued: “Violence is never the answer. Dialogue is the supreme strategy in relationships. If dialogue fails, divorce is a better alternative than escalating violence.”
- @AbiodunOlorire added: “Sanusi’s remarks are controversial because he’s seen as a traditional ruler, not a religious leader. It’s crucial to separate his personal views from broader religious teachings.”
The Complexity of GBV Prevention
Sanusi’s statement has drawn attention to the urgency of addressing domestic violence, but the diverse reactions highlight a critical need for nuanced approaches. Advocates have called for stronger legal frameworks, support systems for victims, and public education to shift societal attitudes.
While the debate continues, Sanusi’s remarks underscore the importance of challenging cultural norms that tolerate abuse, even as questions remain about the most effective strategies to combat gender-based violence.
